This entry is both timely and necessary because as I write to you about recovery, the question becomes when do we need to recover the most? It’s not something we need when all is well or when life is happy. This is not something that comes when we’re around the ones we love the m … | Continue reading
What does it mean to recover or to get something back? Or wait, what did we lose in the first place? Is it time? Is it half of our life? Or, is it more than this and instead of things that we’ve lost, we opened our eyes to realize that so much has happened and […] | Continue reading
Phase Six is all about recovery. To be clear, everyone has something in their life which either hurt them or held them back. Everyone has a past or a previous life which they have tried to forget, shake off or tried to escape from. Also, everyone has a choice they wished they mad … | Continue reading
There were times in my life when I used to think about the art of war.I would think about the moments of heated debates and the hurt feelings or the battles we face. I would think about love or what it was like to be loveless and alone or worse, to have no one there […] | Continue reading
I was listening to a speaker tell a group of people that no one should ever underestimate the impact that we have upon each other’s lives. No one should ever underestimate their influence nor should they underestimate their presence or their absence. We are all uniquely important … | Continue reading
I can remember a story that someone told me in which he said, “Man cannot serve two masters.” His point was more than we can’t save our face and our ass at the same time. This was more than understanding where and who we challenge our energy towards. This was more about whether I … | Continue reading
I remember being told that “Whatever people think of me is none of my business.”So, whatever people think or whatever their intentions are and no matter if they wish me well or otherwise, none of this is my business.We talked about the meltdowns and the freak-outs and the reasons … | Continue reading
There is a cycle of life, to which of course, we all know about.We all go through births and rebirths of different kinds. We experience life in new ways and yes, death is very much a part of life. And to be clear, death comes in different ways. This is more than the literal sense … | Continue reading
Always look within. Remember, if we are to find what we need and if we are to define our best possible life, then the answers we need to understand are the answers that come from places like, our heart and our soul. Before exploring the external universe, start here first. Rememb … | Continue reading
We are social creatures. This means we gather and we flock. We find ourselves with groups and with people who either inspire or impose. We encounter people who will lift us up when we are down and, at the same time, there are people who will prefer us this way. So, they might loo … | Continue reading
I will keep this one short to gain a burst of both inspiration and motivation.I will also keep this impactful. So, to maintain this morning’s energy, I will get right to the point.We need that fire. We need that blast of energy.But more, we need to be mindful. Another boundary to … | Continue reading
Knowing where we are, even if where we are at is neither a good nor a comfortable space is important. To understand where we are means we know what we need to do next. Yet sometimes, the task of doing what’s next or understanding what’s next can be challenging or confusing to say … | Continue reading
Before I go on with this, I want to preface that the inspiration of this story takes place when I was much younger and certainly less professional and responsible. Yet, at the same time, I think that to make our rebirth of sanity and the need to create healthy boundaries relatabl … | Continue reading
Years back, a friend of mine told me to learn how to build bridges, not walls. I thought about this. And I think there are reasons for walls. I think that’s what doors are created for too and inasmuch as I can tell, there are people who deserve the bridge and others who deserve t … | Continue reading
Before moving to the next phase, which is coming up shortly, and while we are still on the topic of inspirational thoughts to push is forward, we are here to seek ownership of our lives. yet, to control our lives, we have to understand where our control begins and where this ends … | Continue reading
Phase four is a simple text. This is intended to bring out the inner truths and to spark the light from within. I have had my share of darkness in the past, which I openly discuss and describe because in my experience; the fact that I’ve accomplished or succeeded in one direction … | Continue reading
I write this to you, tired as ever, and after a long shift at work and a sleepless night. But as tired as I am, I write this to you as a person who made a commitment to do this; to reach out to you on a daily basis, because I knew that if I […] | Continue reading
Ante up . . .I used to hear this at poker games.This means the cards are on the table and it’s your turn to bet. This means get ready to play the hand you have and be ready to gamble. And yet, I say this here and now: Ante up.But it’s not like you think. […] | Continue reading
Phase four is about the realization that life is always happening. But more, this is also about the unseeable facts of life, which take place, which happen to everybody and yet, most of our pains and the majority of our personal discomforts are absolutely unseeable. Yet, the worl … | Continue reading
When it comes to beating oneself up, there’s a saying that goes, “it’s time to put the bat down.”I agree. People beat themselves up, far too much and far too long. It’s time to set those bags down.Or better yet, when it’s time to talk about rebirth of our sanity or at least find … | Continue reading
No one knows.No one knows exactly how or what you feel. No one knows what the touch feels like from the tips of your fingers nor can anyone see the spectrum of colors through your eyes.No one else knows this. Only you.No one knows what a weight feels like in your hands or on your … | Continue reading
Whether we know the answers or not, there are questions, which I have been asking throughout these journal entries. And hopefully, the questions are enough to make us think. Or better yet, hopefully, the questions I’ve been asking are enough to inspire us to act mindfully or to p … | Continue reading
No one accomplishes their best goals or their dreams by moving at a half-hearted pace. No one gets what they want by hoping or wishing and even if they do, and even if this comes, how can we keep value dreams if we don’t know the worth behind the blood and the sweat that it […] | Continue reading
It is clear now that no matter how we try, there is no getting away from ourselves. And since this is true and since it is also true that we never speak to anyone more than we speak to ourselves, then we have to be more than kind. No, now is the time for us […] | Continue reading
We have to remember that self-care is an action. And, now that we are action based, it is safe to say that our sanity is a result of our actions as well.NO?It is safe to say that by now, no one is a stranger to the sayings that say “seize the day,” or “dare to […] | Continue reading
in the beginning, we addressed the way we thought and traced this back to where our thoughts begin. , Then we moved to phase two, which was about action and as expected, the next phase is a continuation of the last. This is phase three. This is not just about the way we think and … | Continue reading
In continuation and in conjunction with the subject at hand, the questions still remain.Why do people freak out? Why do we have mental breakdowns? Why the frustration and why do we have bouts with ourselves?Why are people so hard on themselves? And of course, if at all possible, … | Continue reading
I have been part of what’s called the working world for more than three decades. And to some people, this is a lifetime. To some, I’m still young in the game and wet behind the ears. Of course, three decades can sum up to the simple equation of thirty years. But more to this is [ … | Continue reading
Understand that choice is an action. Even if this seems actionless, still, the choices we make are action-packed as well as impactful on our future selves as well as our sanity. This is important. No, really.It is . . .If we want to understand more about ourselves, then we can al … | Continue reading
There is no such place as Easy Street, at least not really.There’s no easy way to make the world go around and there’s no way to gain momentum without effort.I’m sure that by now, everyone knows this. Yet, i think that everyone forgets this from time to time. I have taken certain … | Continue reading
Please forgive the personal speech. However, I’ve had no choice but to insert this here because otherwise, other voices can take hold. Therefore, I had no choice but to place this here. Over the years, I have had to learn how to narrate my victory and hear a voice in my head, whi … | Continue reading
We already talked about our connections to old ideas in phase one. We talked about our introductions to fear and shame-based thinking. But this isn’t phase one anymore. This isn’t about thinking or thought based strategies. No.This is phase two. This is about action. This is abou … | Continue reading
I was overweight and tried. I struggled to look at myself in the mirror and aside from that, I had other panics and emotional struggles. I had workplace stress and personal heartaches. This includes the ideas of disheartened or tragic thoughts of a dead-end mentality. There was n … | Continue reading
What is forward motion? Or better yet, what is forward thinking?Both questions are valuable and both answers are necessary for this application.Forward motion is to move forward, as in move onward or as in to move ahead, and to head towards something with a goal in mind, a plan i … | Continue reading
To be clear, we understand more about ourselves than we think we do. We know more about us than we believe, and once more, just to add clarity, if we are open to a transformational change, we can learn how to diagram our behaviors to define old symptoms, to which essentially, we … | Continue reading
After the ideas and contemplation and after all the back and forth thinking which, if anything; none of this has done much except lead us to excuses and distance from our goals or to another problem, which is known as procrastination. Once we get through all the realizations and … | Continue reading
When we look at people who succeed and compare ourselves to them or to their success, what do we see?When we think about people who dedicate themselves to a program or see how they invest in strong routine in life, what do we notice about them?Or better yet, when we look at peopl … | Continue reading
There literally is no distance between here and where we want to be in life. This is more of a decision and means towards an end. There is only time and space and the perceptions of difficulty. There’s nothing else to this.Or more accurately, this is a moment when a person says, … | Continue reading
Safe to say that by now, we all know what drives us crazy. We al know what sets us off, which can range from someone leaving a mess on the table or not cleaning up after themselves. This can be seeing someone litter or being interrupted when speaking. Either way, my point is that … | Continue reading
Something I heard in the beginning of my journey is to keep the focus on myself, which is great advice. Yet, somehow, we can often be distracted.I was told, “worry about you.” I was told to stop comparing and stop thinking about what other people say or what other people do.“Keep … | Continue reading
The question above is why start here?Since, I am open to suggestions, I respond to this question with a question of my own.Where else should we start?Where else do we begin, but in the beginning?Right? So –Here at phase one, our attempts to understand ourselves and our freakouts … | Continue reading
I think today is perfect for this entry. I think that this is not only timely but necessary for me. Also, the topic of forgiveness is an interesting one, to say the least.I say this because of all that we carry on our shoulders. I say this because of the burdens in our heart and … | Continue reading
In all honesty, math was never my strong point. I can do the simple things. I know the basics pretty well but for the most part, I am grateful for calculators and things that do the math for me. But, regardless of the items which can either add, subtract, multiply or divide; this … | Continue reading
Safe to say that our mind has a way of reeling back to a time when we heard something, only, it seems we never listened until later in life.It seems that we might have heard something, but we never listened until we replayed the lesson back in our mind. Or, maybe like in our last … | Continue reading
Whether we are at the starting point or at a turning point in our lives is yet to be determined. Either way, my reasons for this journal are unique to me. This means your reasons for following along are unique to you.My reasons for this journal are to highlight my goals. In fact, … | Continue reading
So, I hear you want to be happy, is that right?Well, then let’s see what has to happen. There has to come a time when something wakes us up. Maybe this can come from something we’ve seen or known about for a long time and then almost out of nowhere, we shake our heads as […] | Continue reading
What has to happen?In the sense of our life, what has to happen to make or create actions?This is a great question. When talking about our sanity and when talking about our best life, what has to happen for us to make this so?Or, when talking about happiness. What has to happen t … | Continue reading
It is true that our past has led us up to where we are now. And, it is also true that our past has been defined as what we knew. Our history has certainly played a role, which has shaped the way we think and the way we see things. This can certainly set up […] | Continue reading